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Posted by: akamommy 8/3/2008 7:39 AM
The everyday responsibilities i go through just to be a caregiver,wife,mother
This is my blog of having the weight of thr world on my shoulders,and on my butt. for being a caregiver to my grandmother fulltime. I am also a mother fulltime to 3 wonderful children whom i also homeschool. oh, yes, not to mention i am a happily married woman whom still has to carry on her responsibilities at home while having to help my mother care for my grandmother at her house fulltime.I sorta find it odd trying to take care of my fulltime home responsibilities while i am over at my mothers house all day long caring and giving so much of my time to my grandmother.By the time the day is done, i am so ready to hit my bed for a little *ME* time wich i rarely get anymore. my grandmother is 93 years old and she has dimentia,alhzimers,hardening of the aerteries.you name it. i help my mom take care of her it is just her and i taking care of her.My moms husband is not a healthy one neither, he is a heart paitent and has had  several heart attacks and pacemakers put in and numerous surgeries to unclog aerteries. So, he is little to no help. My mom has a sister that lives 3 hours away. She is as of absloutely no help whatso ever to us.she will only come to help when something goes wrong with her. She has no intentions of ever helping.This makes us mad. The only way she will help us out is when my moms husband has something wrong with him,like a surgery or something, then she will help out only for 1 week never any longer. By the time her week with her is up, she has already called moms house every few days whining and complaining her back is hurting and this or that is hurting. well, whenever she calls moms house and we are sick or something is hurting us, Wich my back and lifting arm hurts more frequently now. she dosen`t give a care what happens to us. only her. I personally think she is a very,very selfish person. And i think i am gonna tell her that whenever she calls the next time........I can`t stand it. wher my moms sister lives, she has 2 sons ,their families and a grand daughter and a grandson. Is it me or does that add up to ALOT more than 2 maybe 3 people that is caring for her fulltime here?? If i did my math correctly, it adds up than more than 3. I know i have children  of my own, they are way too young to do any of the actual *helping* with my grandmother. they are kids, they need to be the kids that they are. now that i am done venting, i guess i can go for now.
  

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Re: My everyday dysfunctional family life.......    By Anonymous on 9/22/2008 7:22 PM
Just keep in mind you are rewarded for what you do in life eventually. Just pray everyday and ask God to help you through this ordeal. That is probably what I would do. I live in an unstable marriage 700 miles away from my family with depression and anxiety so bad I can hardly function. My family just tell me I have to get control over it. No emotional support from them, even though it is inherited from my mother's side of the family and she and her sisters have all tried commiting suicide. One just died a year ago, not so sure it wasn't suicide being she had toxic amounts of pain killers in her system. Sometimes family just don't have time for needy family members and don't care. Just remember, you are not alone. Hang in there. You will be rewarded later.

BF

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